Sex, a topic that is sure to make one's ears perk up and gain your attention with no strings attached. The very mention of the word grabs your attention. Did you ever wonder how such a small word, only three letters long, could create such interest from so many people? I want to share some thoughts and feelings that I have concerning this important topic and also look at some principles given in Scripture concerning the subject.
Sex is God's idea. I want to establish this fact from the very onset of our discussion. Genesis 1 explains how God introduced sex into our world. He created it; "male and female he created them." (Gen.1:27)
Why is it that some people make us feel guilty because we are sexual beings with sexual feelings? For teenagers who have recently passed through puberty and are experiencing sexual feelings for the first time, it is difficult to know what is right or wrong and to whom to listen. It is difficult to sort out all the baffling thoughts, feelings and attitudes experienced in early adolescence (teenage years). Older teens have so many sexual suggestions thrown at them from all directions that it is difficult to know what is right and what is wrong. Even adults are victims of sexual insinuations and innuendos from almost every direction - TV, radio, movies, videos, billboards, and even from people at the office or on the job.
God made us the way we are, as sexual beings, and even said that it was good (Gen 1:31). We should be hesitant about calling something God calls good anything less than good. We should also be careful to use this gift of God only in the way He intended.
From almost every corner of our society, sex is almost an object of worship or a god in itself. This is not how God intended for us to use His gift. It is to be enjoyed in the manner He intended, not worshiped as a god nor allowed to become an idol. We shall see in the following discussion, that the real problems come not from sex, but from the misuse and perversion of sex.
In general, a rule of thumb is to follow Jesus' example. Treat others as persons, not as sexual "toys" (boys), to be played with and discarded after use, or as "date bait" (girls) to attract a particular fellow.
Why control the sexual drive within us? The Bible says that part of the fruit of the Spirit is self control (Gal. 5:23). But other than that, there are some very practical reasons God placed the restrictions on sexual practices that He did. Going too far, too fast, before the process of emotional and spiritual maturity takes place, means we CANNOT enjoy sex as its Author (God) intended. Once a person goes too far, and realizes this truth, he/she can never return to the state of God given innocence enjoyed formerly.
Remember, control means to guide, direct, and restrain your impulses, not merely slam on the brakes when you sense you may be too near the edge. You may not know how close you are to the edge until you fall over the cliff. The time to set your personal limits is before you date.
The question that I have been asked or heard or seen written across the eyes of more teenagers than I can count is "How far can/should I go in the sexual area on a date?" Surprise! I cannot answer that question for you. The idea is not to see how far you can go without getting into trouble, the idea is to respect each other and God.
I cannot answer the question, but I can suggest some guidelines that may be helpful in you establishing your own personal code of conduct. This not is a comprehensive list nor or these ideas necessarily the best ways. These suggestions are intended to get you started on a personal program of self control under the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7:1, "it is good for man not to touch a woman."(NASB) I think perhaps it is safe to say that Paul was saying it is not good to light the fires of passion that cannot be righteously satisfied outside the bonds of marriage. Included in the fires of passion are attitudes, actions, and words. By not lighting fires of passion, you show respect for the one you are with. You also show genuine love for that person.
Recognize that in our world today, there is an almost overwhelming pressure to compromise in this area. Dear friend, don't. Understand your own sexual responses and the responses of the one you are with and make every effort to keep your motives and attitudes pure.
Kissing, one of life's simple pleasures, should be something that is very meaningful. Be very careful who and when you kiss. Some guys give out kisses like others give out handshakes. This seems to me to degrade a very special act reserved for a very special person in my life (my wife). Kissing here is defined as a sexual act, not the kind given to relatives. Yes, we kissed before we were married, but that activity was not the focus of our time together. Guard your kisses, use them wisely in your dating.
Many times physical contact (anything from heavy petting on) is done for the purpose of security. The sad fact that too often is learned too late is that sexual bonds alone are not secure bonds. If you are involved in these activities only for the purpose of keeping that boy (or girl), it probably will not work. Sex will not glue a marriage, much less a dating relationship. Remember these little discussed facts: Sex and security are not love! There are many ways to express your love for a person apart from the physical.
Be honest. Don't let your lips go beyond your heart in a "weak" moment. Before you tell a person that you "love" him/her, make sure you understand love and commitment and that you love and are committed to that person. Some people try to equate sex and security or sex and love. Sex is not love. Security is not love. In fact, sex given to "guarantee" a continued relationship usually backfires and destroys the relationship. Most unmarried couples who have sex, break up. Strange as it seems, the security searched for is not found and even the little security they had is lost. How tragic this is in the life of a teenager. Don't let it happen to you.
Learn to say NO! In fact, until you master the art of saying NO, you are not even ready to date. It is a matter of maturity. Learn how to say and mean NO! Just being able to say that simple, short, powerful word can mean more to you than you can imagine. Just ask someone who couldn't to honestly share with you their feelings.
Girls (and guys), remember that the well worn, cheap phrase, "If you love me, you will let me." after an unwanted, unplanned pregnancy often becomes, "If you love me, you will get an abortion." We are talking heavy stuff here. Think it through carefully. In reality, these phrases have little to do with love at all. Reality is, "If you love me, you won't persist!"
Always act with LOVE toward the other person. This means treating the person with respect, something we seldom see in our day. Also, Christian love always seeks what is best for the other person, not only his/her own personal desires.
If you find yourself in a situation where you feel you are losing control of your emotions, there is one simple Scriptural solution, RUN! "Flee the evil desires of youth [and older people], pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." (2 Timothy 2:22)
In determining your own guidelines, remember that you, as a Christian, are God's temple, the dwelling place of the Holy Spirit. Our bodies should be pure and kept pure because God lives there. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 explains Paul's thinking on this matter. "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own, you were bought with a price. Therefore honor God with your body." Scripture clearly teaches that premarital intercourse is wrong (1 Thessalonians 4:3 among many Scripture references). Too much physical contact (anything from heavy petting on) violates God's principles for unmarried couples. These activities have their place as a prelude to intercourse which is an act reserved for marriage (1 Thessalonians 4:6).
Fidelity (honesty, trustworthiness) to your mate, even if the two of you have never met, is another dimension of sexual guidelines I trust you will consider. Act with integrity and decency NOW, so you don't cheapen the marriage you hope to have one day.
Remember the three dimensional aspect of sex. Each dimension is important and if any of the three are missing, then the sexual experience will be weakened and watered down and less than fulfilling.
The first dimension (not necessarily in order of importance) is the physical dimension. This is basic physiology and what most people refer to as the sex act or intercourse. This is the biological union of male and female.
The second dimension is in the realm of the psychological, the mind. In this dimension, the inner person with his thoughts, desires, and feelings, becomes one with another. This does not mean total agreement with another person, but it does mean becoming one with that person. This is the intellectual union, knowing how another person thinks, feels, and responds.
The third dimension, and often a very overlooked dimension, is the Spiritual dimension. Here two people become one Spiritually. This is only possible through the common life that each has in the Lord Jesus. The Spiritual Oneness should be the bedrock of the marriage. If this dimension is missing, then the whole relationship is in danger of collapse. Both of you should be totally committed to the Lord Jesus Christ with a common heart desire to love, honor and obey Him first and then each other.
Pray with your date before you leave. Ask the Lord to guide, strengthen, enable and provide you with the needed self control. Careful planning of the activity will also help. Prayer is a powerful and often overlooked tool of the Christian in practicing self control.
Set your boundaries before you go on a date. Know yourself and your responses and set your limits before you go. It is much easier to determine what is "right" for you in the privacy of your own prayer closet than in the excitement of being with that special someone.
Watch where you go. Guys, just as Scripture appoints the man to be the Spiritual leader of the home, I believe it is the young man's responsibility to guide the spiritual direction of the date. That does not mean that all you should do on a date are "spiritual" things. I mean the young man should set the tone. You don't just happen to be at a certain place at a certain time, rather, you planned to be there. Guys, plan to be somewhere doing something that would be acceptable for another guy to be doing with the girl you will one day marry. Remember to treat your special friend as a person and not merely an object, plaything, or toy. Treat the girl you are with as you will want some other boy to treat your daughter.
Learn the tactics of the evil one. Don't wait for Satan to attack you in your weak areas, avoid situations where you are likely to be tempted. You are not tempted to jump in the water if you are not close to a pool. For guys in particular, sexual desires are a weak area, avoid situations which stir up those desires unrighteously.
Watch what you put into your mind. Scripture contains many cautions about what to put in your mind. (See Proverbs 23:7 and Romans 12:2 for starters.) What you think about determines what you do. Thoughts become attitudes which become actions which become accomplishments which become habits. Remember the GIGO (Garbage In, Garbage Out) principle from Computer Science, what you put in your mind determines what comes out of your life.
Watch what you read. You know what is good for you to read and what is not. Books or magazines that cause you to think or fantasize erotically should be avoided. Among the dangers of this kind of literature, is the risk that the fantasies they generate may spark unrealistic expectations which cannot be fulfilled in marriage. This results in massive frustration and may be the seed of marital disharmony.
Watch which movies you attend or which videos or TV programs you view. If what you are watching undermines Biblical values, stop watching that movie, video, or program. Programs that make sex funny, or marital distress acceptable are in the category of undermining Biblical values. Where is the focus of your heart? Is it on the Lord Jesus or is it on "entertainment"?
Guard your lips. Be cautious of what you say. Speaking (or listening to) off color jokes, sexual innuendoes, or provocative talk WILL influence you. It is not wrong or sinful to talk about sex, but be careful of the context. Sex is not a toy, it is one of God's greatest gifts to men and women.
Spend time in Bible Study. Both alone and with your date. You will be amazed at how the Holy Spirit can work in your life if you will give Him freedom and an opportunity to do so.
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Gen 1:27) From the very beginning of the Bible, it is clearly seen that God created men and women. He created them and he created them differently, to walk differently, to talk differently, to feel differently, to respond differently, in short to be different. Each has his own role to play in God's overall scheme of things. One completes the other.
In the realm of sexuality, these differences become extremely, vitally, crucially important for young men and women to understand. Because of these differences in response, many young people get into deep trouble almost before they know it and almost always end up wondering "why?" By understanding how men and women, males and females, respond sexually, you may be better able to guard your desires and the desires of the one you are with so that you both will be able to maintain purity in thought, talk, attitude, and action.
Males respond sexually primarily by sight. This means that what a young man sees with his eyes may cause erotic thoughts to enter his mind, erotic thoughts lead to erotic attitudes and eventually erotic actions. For this reason, girls, it is important for you to be careful of how you dress, sit, walk, talk, and act. What may be a "harmless" action in your mind may actually be highly stimulating to a young man. Girls, be careful of the slogans and designs on your T-shirts and blouses. These may easily detract the boys attention from your face, which is where it belongs, to other parts of your body, which may defraud him. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8). Most girls know instinctively what is provocative and what is not, however, for those questionable occasions, ask your Dad. He knows how boys think and can give you wise counsel. If your dad is not available, ask your Mom or a trusted Christian adult male friend.
Guys, be aware of your sexual responses and be ready to flee youthful lusts. That may mean leaving a situation, changing channels, selecting a different movie, or just closing your eyes or turning your back. You are responsible for the material that goes into your brain through your eyes and ears. It takes a great deal of self control to be able to attain these feats, but it is worth the price! Your purity and the purity of the one you are with is at stake.
Women respond sexually primarily by touch. This fact is the primary reason guys need to be very careful of how and where they touch the girl. Guys walking down the hall or down the street or through the mall hanging "all over" their girl are setting themselves up for an unpleasant situation either by "going too far" or in extreme frustration. Neither alternative is pleasant and neither exalts the name of the Lord Jesus. Where is the focus of your heart?
I am not advocating a totally "hands off" policy, but I urge extreme caution in this area, especially for the boy. A little discretion goes a long way. By the way, where IS the focus of your heart? Is it on your personal desires or is it on the Lord Jesus? The answer to that question may help immensely in setting your own personal limits.
Men and women respond differently in the area of love as well. Contrary to popular opinion, sex and love are not the same thing. Sex is a physical act with emotional overtones while love is an emotional act with physical overtones. You may have to think about that for a moment to let it sink in. There is a massive difference in the two.
Sex dominates the thinking of the man. This is the mentality that says to a girl the well worn line, "If you love me, you'll let me." A man may give love to get sex, although the trade off is not what is hoped for.
On the other hand, Woman's mind is dominated by love. This all too often leads to the response of letting the guy do what feels good for him (at the expense of her purity) in order to get the love she craves. She will give sex to get love. The only problem is that even though she gives sex to the fellow, she does not receive love in return and then she feels doubly empty. What a tragic way to learn that sin always promises more than it can deliver. God's way is best, all the time, for everyone, in every situation. Where is the focus of your heart?
In the area of sexual responses, remember, men have the ability to get "charged up' very quickly while a woman's interests build more slowly. This is a vital truth to learn and to remember, even in marriage!
Along the lines of sexual responses, there is another important point to consider: The Principle of Diminishing Returns. Very simply, this principle states that over a period of time, it takes more stimulation to achieve the same level of response, that is, it takes more to make you feel as good as it did before. This idea is clearly understood in the drug culture where over time more and more of the illicit drug is used or needed to give the same level of "thrill." That is the underlying principle of addiction and maintaining an illegal drug market. In the area of sex and sexual responses, the same principle applies. That means that over time, it takes more sexual stimulation to give the same "thrill." This naturally leads to more sexual activity (and sexual perversions). What a viscous circle this becomes using one of God's greatest gifts to humans: sex.
Scripture clearly indicates that we are not to light a fire of passion in the one we are with unless we are in a position to fulfill righteously that desire. The fulfillment can only righteously come in marriage. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 gives some super guidelines on this principle. (See also 1 Corinthians 7) Practically, in the area of sex, this means that acts that today send electric sparks all over you, will not give you the same charge if you continually repeat the same acts. For example, the first time you hold hands with that special girl, sparks really fly. As you continue to hold her hand, the number of sparks diminish. The first kiss is electrifying, later, it takes more to get the same tingly feeling all over. Do you get the point? Where is the focus of your heart?
Sex remains meaningful in marriage not because of what you get out of it but because of what you put into it. That is why sex in marriage can improve over a lifetime and not get old or boring.
Someone wiser than I has designed the following chart as a criterion in deciding how far to go in the area of sexual behaviors. Look at it and decide for yourself if these are relevant ideas.
The line marks the line beyond which trouble looms and desires are aroused which cannot be satisfied righteously outside marriage. It marks where hormones may become more powerful than reason and where emotions and feelings may move in to control your actions. Check very carefully the focus of your heart as you consider these ideas.
Other than intercourse, what are the sexual acts with which you may be familiar? The most common among boys in particular and fairly widespread among girls is the act of masturbation.
This is a controversial topic. Some people prefer to ignore it, others try to hide it under the rug, others are embarrassed about it, others feel it should not be discussed, and others feel it is a taboo topic. There are those who will read this section who will not agree with my views. That is okay! Whatever your personal views are, I encourage you to study the Scripture and work through your feelings. There are many Christian teachers who take opposite views on this topic. What follows is what I have worked out after years of struggle and searching. These thoughts satisfy me and as best I know, conform to Scripture. You and the Holy Spirit will have to decide what is best for you.
Notably, I think, the Scripture does not mention the subject of masturbation. I say notably because men and women must surely have known about it and practiced it from the days of Adam on. The one Old Testament reference that is close to mentioning masturbation is in Genesis 38. However, the specific act referred to is early withdrawal in intercourse and really has nothing to do with masturbation. Notable also, I think, because practically every other sexual sin is mentioned specifically and forbidden. My personal belief is that since the Scripture is silent on the subject, masturbation is not a major issue.
Also consider the character of God. He created the sexual drive within us, therefore he knows the power it has on us. I do not believe God would put a strong sexual desire inside a man and then forbid him any sense of relief at all. Masturbation does relieve sexual pressure and does not violate any other Scriptural principle as best I understand the Bible.
To the parents who may read this manuscript, no matter what your personal feelings are on masturbation, decide how you will share your beliefs with your sons and daughters. They are needing to know where you stand. Studies show that between 85% and 95% or more of teenage boys masturbate and that 64% or more teenage girls masturbate. More than likely, your teenage boy will masturbate and probably your teenage girl will as well. Help them deal with the feelings associated with the practice.
There is no evidence to indicate that masturbation causes any physiological injury. Those are long words that mean masturbation will not harm your body. Many rumors that you may have heard about not being able to have children or making you crazy are just that - unfounded rumors and myths.
There are three settings in which masturbation may become harmful. First, it may become harmful if done in a group setting. Group masturbation can easily redirect sexual desires from the opposite sex (heterosexual) to the same sex (homosexual). It also may promote unhealthy attitudes toward sex, sexuality, and sex practices. Masturbation, if done at all, should be done in a private setting.
Masturbation may also be harmful if it is accompanied by intense guilt. If this is your situation, I suggest you muster up all your courage and talk to your Dad. If that is impossible, talk to your Pastor, Youth Pastor, or another trusted Christian same-sex adult who knows and understands the problems of youth. There are steps one can take to work through this kind of situation.
Finally, masturbation may be harmful when it becomes a substitute for heterosexual relationships within marriage. This situation can occur even among Christian couples. If this is true in your case, talk with your parents or another trusted Christian who can give you some Biblical insight for handling this situation.
I do not condemn or condone masturbation, but all things considered, I do believe it will be better for you if you do not (see Purity which follows). But when or if you do masturbate, I don't think you need to wrestle with excessive, intensive guilt over it. (Dobson, 86 ff) The root issue is sexual purity which I will discuss in the next section.
This is one topic on which I wish I could sit down and share with you, one on one. It is most difficult to get my feelings on to paper. Perhaps this section will give you some helpful insights into the subject. Most people feel very strongly on this subject and there are two opposing positions. One is it doesn't matter and the practice should be encouraged, the other is that is it wrong and should be avoided. I have come to believe that masturbation is more a symptom of a problem and the deeper issue of purity and holiness are more important.
There is one further point that needs to be made in regards to masturbation. Paul said in Ephesians 5:3 that "amoung you there must no be even a hint of sexual immorality." The idea of purity is more important than the topic of masturbation. God desires you and me to be holy and pure before Him.
From my own experience and from talking to scores of young men over the years, I think that the thoughts and images that run through the mind during masturbation presents a problem with purity. That being true, I would encourage you not to masturbate.
In our society, sexual images are rampant and are everywhere - TV shows, commercials, movies, billboards, and the Internet. These images do things in the mind of a male that are not pure. One of the best resources on battling impurity is a book by Stephen Arteburn and Fred Stoeker called Every Man's Battle. That book is geared more for married men but there are some excellent principles of Scripture in it. They have also written a similar book more directed at teenagers called Every Young Man's Battle. The authors go in to much more detail than I can do here
Not only is there hope, Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker give tools to use to win the battle for sexual purity. These tools involve guarding the eyes to keep them from looking at things they should not, guarding the mind to keep it from dwelling on things it should not, and guarding the heart to keep it devoted to your wife (present or future).
If you are having difficulty in this area, muster up your courage and talk to your parents, pastor, or trusted friend. Look to Scripture and the power of the Holy Spirit. Most of all, guard the focus of your heart.
What is petting? For purposes of this book, petting is touching, holding, fondling, rubbing, or caressing any part of another person's body other than their hands. Petting is a sexual act best reserved for marriage. The reason is that this particular act causes sexual stimulation which can not be righteously satisfied outside of the marriage relationship. It is not easy to avoid this kind of physical contact. Be extra careful and guard the focus of your heart.
Kissing and fondling to the point of sexual arousal seems almost expected in today's society. There is a false rumor that everybody's doing it. (That is false because even though many may be, everyone is not.) For some, this may be an honest attempt for a couple to express their love for each other, although it is probably only an attempt to satisfy an intense physical desire. There are dangers involved in this kind of relationship.
Petting is quickly habit forming. A couple can QUICKLY get into a pattern of spending most of their time petting instead of getting to know each other's personality. Once this pattern is established, it is most difficult to break, so it is better never to begin. It also robs a couple of many of the positive aspects of dating and the positive values dating can contribute to the lives of each.
Petting is frequently (most of the time) dishonest. It is dishonest because it expresses a degree of affection which the persons do not really have for each other. (If they really had this level of affection, they would wait for marriage instead of rushing in carelessly on ground so unstable.) One may be expressing real affection while the other is using the partner for selfish sexual enjoyment.
Petting reduces sex to the physical. In the process, it keeps the couple from learning how to relate to one another as total persons. This is serious, especially if the couple eventually marry. Petting creates shallow relationships because if the couple spends most of their together time petting, they don't really learn about each other. Most importantly, marriages built on a mostly physical relationship, are on a very shaky foundation.
Petting can create guilt. A person who believes his body is the temple of God (and it is) will not be happy using it for selfish pleasure. Over and over, Scripture urges us to exercise self-control.
Petting, especially heavy petting, may cause emotional disorders or mental illness. Why? Because it leaves no good way out. It violates God's plan for marital relationships. Petting triggers emotional and physical responses that gear the body for intercourse. Stopping short is emotionally damaging - like throwing a car into reverse while it is moving forward. (Going all the way before marriage is even more damaging!!) The only real way to avoid getting hurt or not hurting the other person is by not getting involved in heavy petting. On the other side of the coin, properly controlled expressions of genuine affection which are not designed to lead to deeper sexual activity or to intercourse are permissible for a Christian Young Person.
What are acceptable limits for a Christian couple? Refer to the chart on drawing the line mentioned earlier in this section. Remember the Principle of Diminishing Returns. Show respect for the other person. Recognize the tremendous pressure you face in this area. Set your standards before you are in a position to need them.
Some helpful questions for you to answer in determining what God would have your standards to be include:
What about sex in marriage? Sexual intercourse in marriage is how God designed sex to be enjoyed. In the context of marriage, intercourse is a beautiful way for two people to come together in a hostile world and offer love to one another. It is the language of oneness. It is a language of Knowing. Throughout Scripture, when a man "knows" a woman, the sex act is meant.
Maximum sexual pleasure demands a harmonious relationship with the same partner over a long period of time. Yes, this kind of relationship requires work and effort to keep alive, but it is worth every bit of the time and energy involved.
Only in marriage do most women find a truly satisfying sex experience (and men too, for that matter). The reason is that for most couples, the first few sexual experiences are not that satisfying. It takes time, patience, and almost ideal conditions for many to have a satisfying sexual encounter. Learning to satisfy your mate sexually, is one of the fun parts of marriage. It is something to look forward to with anticipation and enjoy fully at the proper time (in marriage).
Sexual intercourse outside of marriage is often not enjoyable and may even be damaging because it does not have the security and support of the marriage commitment. This is part of the reason that so many couples who engage in pre-marital intercourse end their relationship shortly after the experience.
In marriage the most important sex organ, your mind, can be utilized to its fullest capacity. The first sexual encounter gives important data for your mind to digest. Each subsequent sexual experience gives additional data. Each subsequent encounter with your mate continues to add to the data on file. Your mind uses this continually growing storehouse of information to build and refine the relationship you have with your spouse. This is why sex can remain a vibrant and exciting part of marriage over a lifetime. This is why sex in a vibrant, healthy marriage can overcome the Principle of Diminishing Returns. This is why sex in marriage need never become boring, but rather increases in satisfaction and enjoyment over a lifetime.
In sex, as in all things, God's way is the best way. I encourage you with all my heart, wait until marriage. Save your body for that special someone, then commit yourself totally to him/her and love him/her fully, completely, and unashamedly.
In all this talk about sex and all the conflicting feelings and emotions you and I experience when talking about sex and the acts related to it, how can a young man or woman keep his or her heart pure? By living according to God's word. By seeking God with all your heart. By hiding God's word in our hearts so that we will not sin against God. (See Psalm 119:9-16.) Guard the focus of your heart and constantly be certain that your heart focus is on the Lord Jesus Christ.
Once, long ago, I read the following poem. It expresses some really neat feelings
and I want to share them with you.
Lord, it's hard to talk to you about sex.
It's hard because
Some people say sex and religion don't mix.
Some people say sex is dirty.
Some people say sex should never be mentioned.
But your Word says it's good.
Help me to keep it good in my life.
Help me to be open about sex and still protect its mystery.
Help me to see that sex is neither a demon nor a deity.
Help me not to climb up into a fantasy world of imaginary sexual partners.
Help me to stay in the real world and love the real persons whom you have created.
Thank you Lord, for making me a sexual being.
Thank you Lord, for showing me how to treat other persons with trust and love.
Thank you Lord, for letting me talk to you about sex.
(Good News About Sex)
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